Pet parenting peeve? Whining- oh my LORD I cannot stand it. We have a hard and fast rule in this house you never get what you want by whining. When Robert and Ethan were smaller I would tell them that whining hurt my ears, now I tell them that we don't speak Whinese and they need to try again so that I can understand them. But as we all know its far easier to preach than practice and so this morning I had a whole internal conversation in Whinese....I don't want to go to work, I hate cleaning the house why do we have to celebrate Halloween for whole freaking month?(Seriously, Halloween is out of control people put on a mask grab some candy be done with it).
I can rant with the best of them and this internal whining could have gone on interminably. Until- I heard about a family in our community that a got a piece of devastating life altering news. I don't know the family personally- but it shut up my inner whiner pretty quickly. Halloween excess, dirty dishes in the sink and a crazy work schedule are all evidence of my having blessings beyond measure. So the whine fest is over for awhile.
There is a phrase I use in my work a lot, Radical Acceptance. It means to accept that which is without the need to change it in the next five minutes. That's what I am working toward today. And just to drive the point home for me this was on the sign in front of Robert's school :
"Patience is the ability to accept difficult situations without a deadline". Radical acceptance, patience, peace of mind whatever you call it- there is no word for it in Whinese.
Excuse my while I put on my big girl clothes and get busy learning the language of gratitude and acceptance.
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